Relationships can be a funny thing, one day you are in a relationship, happy as can be, and the next day, it's over sometimes without any warnings at all. Now all you can do is sit there wondering what went wrong and what, if anything, you can do to get an ex back or what you can do to repair the relationship. You begin to think that there is nothing you can do and the relationship is over for good. You should never feel as if there is nothing that can be done to get an ex back, because there is always hope.
Now that your relationship has ended, do you find yourself doing any of the following things?
1. Feeling deeply depressed.
2. Constantly thinking about why the relationship fell apart.
3. Not eating due to loss of appetite.
4. Eating excessively for comfort or to help ease the depression.
5. Turning off the radio because it seems as if every song reminds you of them.
6. Staying at home because you are afraid you will miss a call from your ex.
7. Calling your ex constantly all day long.
8. Constantly sending text messages or emailing your ex.
9. Constantly checking text, email, or voice mail for returned calls.
10. Find yourself thinking of ways to spy on your ex.
Are you doing any of these things? You probably are, and I say that because these are the things that 99% of the people that suffer or go through a break up do. If you are doing any of these then think about this, What is going to happen if and when you finally get a hold of your ex? Nine times out of ten what normally happens is, it turns very ugly very quickly.
First you will feel a sense of panic because you won't know what to say, next you will become very defensive and then, the argument starts, from this point it will just start to get more and more nasty until one of you slams the phone down, in frustration or anger, hanging up on the other. If this is what you really want then by all means do the ten things listed above and say good bye to the relationship forever. If however, you really do want to salvage the relationship then read on.
Now you are asking, "So, what am I suppose to do and feel?" So that you don't permanently ruin your relationship you should have a plan to get an ex back that you know will work, and you need to have it before you get a hold of your ex. This can save you a lot grief in the long run and shorten the time it takes to get your back.
What you can do until you find a plan that you feel will work is first, overcome the depression. You can do that by going out with your friends, and enjoy yourself or do things that made you happy before the relationship then stopped doing after you met and started seeing your ex.(If these things gave you pleasure once before it goes without saying that they should give you pleasure again.)
The next thing you should do is to try and determine what the cause of the break up was, and what if anything, you can do to correct the problem. It may not have been a single thing, it may have been things that have been piling up for a while, either way, you will need to know what it was so that you can work on correcting it.
No matter what, take the blame, even if you are not entirely to blame for the break up. If you want to get an ex back, it is always better to just take the blame, this will help to stop an argument before it starts. Arguing about whose fault it was will only put more strain on an already broken relationship, making it even more difficult to repair.
Now start working on self improvement such as, getting rid of those habits you know are bad and know you should have gotten rid of a long time ago, your appearance, if you look good you will feel better about yourself. Improving yourself can only make you feel better about yourself and once you feel better about yourself you will make yourself more desirable to others and perhaps to your ex as well.
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